Day 5: Airport counts as Outing!
So my plane left at 2:30 PM – as I am sure you can imagine, there was no time to go somewhere before then. I need to get the dog ready, pack for Julia and myself – and worked late so it didn’t get done the night before. But I count trying to look nice to go to the airport a win.
I have known about this wedding for a long time and I would not have missed it for the world. The couple is one of the nicest couples I know and I was so excited to share this day with them. But — I definitely had some anxiety about going alone. I have never gone solo to a wedding. Mostly because I was married young and for 7/8 years and most of my friends got married during that time period. Those that didn’t I managed to take a friend (not a boyfriend because my dating life has been pretty sad). This time, there was no one who wanted to make the trek (fly to indy and drive 2 hours) or they were busy. The groom is a coworker as well, so I knew there were going to be other coworkers and I didn’t want anyone to feel sorry for me (not sure they would, but I over think). I also could have brought my LO, but the thought of making that trek with her alone, made me exhausted. So there you have it – I was going to a wedding alone for the first time at the age of 40.
So I made myself cute and headed to the airport. I stopped to grab some food and a drink before boarding. I sat next to an older women who provided unsolicited advice on what I should order. I heard her story about where she lived, where she was headed and how her plane was delayed. I thought to myself, why I can’t be more like her, just start chatting with the person next to me. But then I also thought she was annoying and all I wanted to do was try to finish some work and enjoy my food. There must be some happy medium there that I have yet to discover.
Plane to Indy was uneventful. Rented a car and drove 2 hours to the rehearsal dinner/pool party. In the parking lot, I ran into another coworker with his girlfriend. They seemed so young – ready to swim without hesitation. I was feeling more reserved and a little insecure about not having a date. It was very cute and fun – I didn’t go down the water slides as I was more concerned about my hair than the thrill.
We then headed to a local brewery. I have to pat myself on the back for being more social at this part than I expected. As I sat at a table with some of the bride’s friends, who i didn’t know prior, I felt confident and even humorous as I shared some stories about myself. I had a very good time and happy in my decision not to bring a date.
Day 6: The Wedding
The morning came and I wasn’t sure what I was going to do until the ceremony. There was a shooting range outing, but I don’t feel comfortable around guns so I declined. The day was mine. I ventured down to the hotel free breakfast and then headed back up to the room. Work started to come in and I caught myself responding to emails almost convinced myself it would be ok to work and rest – not leaving the room until the ceremony. But I managed to talk myself out it. I put on some running clothes and headed to the Watermelon festival and River Walk.
This small town made me feel like Rory Gilmore. Everyone knew everyone and they were super friendly. I scrolled the festival picking up some yellow watermelon and then went for a short run (it was very hot). Very proud of myself for not staying in my room.
As I was getting ready for the wedding, anxiety set in again. But I was there and couldn’t change the fact that I didn’t have a date, so I headed out. I was late, didn’t miss the start of the ceremony, but still later than most (I forgot my shoes and needed to buy new ones – I didn’t realize this until 20 mins before the ceremony was scheduled to start). The ceremony was perfect (outside, so a little hot and sticky).
The reception was fun — here are my tips to enjoy a wedding without a date:
- Dance – a lot – you won’t be the only one without a date, so grab some dateless people and dance. For me, the others found me and we ended up dancing the entire night.
- Talk with the table my table was mostly coworkers and dates, so I knew them, but I got a chance to interact outside of work and with the booze coming, this became easier.
These could be wedding tips to enjoy wedding under any circumstances – but I think they are definitely needed when you are flying solo.
As you can see from the picture above – I had a great time.
Day 7: Time to Go Home
When I got back to the hotel, I received a text from a girl I met at the brewery and hung out at the wedding, asking me if I would join her for breakfast in the morning. She had asked the groom for my number. She is super sweet, so despite me thinking that was a bit much, I agreed to meet for breakfast around 8:30 AM.
Question: Do you think this was creepy? She also asked to sit at my table. She didn’t bring her boyfriend so perhaps she just wanted to hang out with someone. She also sent me a text message when she made it to her destination.
At breakfast, we ran into a couple we met at the wedding – so great conversation. I was happy I met the girl for breakfast despite thinking it was odd. I left breakfast knowing that nice people exist and attending wedding alone is not so bad (I would still rather have a guest).
Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. – Brian Tracy